HOW I RAISED A MONSTER

As a father and husband in some parts of Nigeria, there is always a craving for birthing a male child. This usually comes to play when the first child happens to be a female, and the pressure unconsciously arouse due to ego, self esteem, family and friends' expectations, heir to inheritance factor, and some other reasons.  The man of the house begins to consider some health factors that could have championed the female birth syndrome in him or his spouse. This consideration mostly gives birth to trying out other women in order to get a chance of male child conception, especially when the second child unfortunately turns out to be a female.

The part of some mother and father-in- laws often cause what is known as ravages of frustration on the woman, simply because they have a myopic view that she should be powerful enough to give the family a male child. Meanwhile, this is subjected to some scientific measures which have certain implications and outcomes, that have mostly to do with the posture of couples during sexual intercourse, the chromosomes carried by the two partners, and the times of exposure to sex. Many homes have been torn apart due to this overrated gender preference that most couples and in laws crave for, and this has little or many negative effects on the society in most cases.

Nevertheless, in some homes where they are 'lucky' to have a male or some male children, there use to be preferences in the assignment of duties. Have you ever seen a rule that says it is a taboo for a male child to know how to cook well, wash dishes, clean the house, especially the toilet and bathroom, but he can wash car and run financial errands in the home? I am yet to see one, and none has been passed to law. Most of our parents have deviated by raising their male children like monsters that should do little or nothing in the house simply because they are heirs and other younger and elder sisters should be answerable to their domestic needs.

This belief has however handicapped most bachelors. How? There is an inherent lazy nature in them, and this has caused most of them to depend on girlfriends for meals, and they have turned to victims of tin (canned) foods which can be cancerous most times, victims of canteen and restaurants foods which might jeopardise their health after so much exposure to such meals. This menace has contributed to reliance of male children on female children virtually in everything today. It has become a trend that a female child must work harder, hold a public office, and in most cases be career driven before they can meet a marriageable standard. There is now a role reversal in most homes as some men have forgotten that they are the original providers, while the women are meant to support. Some women have turned to an automated teller machine of their husbands as well as home keepers, without little or no form of appreciation but frustration in most cases.

In as much as we cannot rule out the position of the woman as a home keeper, she should also be loved for multi tasking, keeping of the home, and going out of her way to provide financially for the home. So many women that clamour for gender equality today are mostly victims of males heinous activities that made them independent one way or the other, and this is posing a threat in most homes as a wife feels she has equal rights as the man because she does what the man engages in financially.

This is not a feminism push, but a reminder to our parents that nothing stops us from raising our children to be caring and loving by teaching them every bit of domestic chores in order to make them have a sense of responsibility to others, as well as to inculcate good habit of assistance and the zeal to be hard working in all ramifications. An enthusiast believes that greater goals can be achieved by teaming up for better outcome. Our mothers should raise their children equally irrespective of the gender, because there is a notion that some over kept males maltreat and abuse women in most cases. LET US STOP RAISING MONSTERS WITH NO HUMAN FEELINGS!