QUESTION FOR FAYOSE, FFK AND THE ACTING PRESIDENT

 I was on my way home from school when I saw a boy raining curse on a boy of his age but well built. People around were trying to prevent him from advancing toward the calm boy, but he was blinded by his anger and he threw punches at the two older people trying to restrain him. About half of the gathering shouted, 'let him go!'. Simultaneously, the people holding him released his arms and off he went towards the well composed opponent...You want to know what happened to him?
He was flattened by few punches that landed on his jaw...
I think Nnamdi Kanu is fast approaching that stage but I have no message for him before his sympathisers starts asking what concerns Yoruba with Biafra. I will rather ask our man with presidential ambition a simple question: PRESIDENT FAYOSE, IF A MAN CALLED NNAMDI KANU CONSTITUTED BIAFRA SECRET SERVICE WITHIN THE TERRITORY YOU ARE GOVERNING, WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?

In my opinion, Femi Fani-Kayode is more intelligent and more strategic, and should have a good answer: Dear sir, WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE IF YOU WERE THE PRESIDENT OF THE REPUBLIC OF ODUDUWA YOU WERE AGITATING FOR?

TO THE ACTING PRESIDENT
Dear leader, when many Nigerians are at the brink of taking your party to abattoir to be sluttered, you are one of, if not the only one we look up-to to wave the magic wand. As a Senior Advocate, what would you call what Kanu, who was seven months old in his mother's womb when biafra war started in 1967, just did?
Becoming a doormat is not a sign of humility, it is a sign of weakness.
It is the day referendum is conducted that Kanu will know he has been betrayed. Just like the boy in the story was released, I wish Kanu is released to be given a sucker punch at referendum. No igbo wants him as leader. He lacks the qualities, only stubbornness like the one that killed Pharaoh.  

Odunmorayo Olalekan Matthew                 Author and Speech writer

THE STORY OF AB' ELEJA YAN ( THE MAGNET THAT ATTRACTS WASTAGE)

Ab' eleja yan is a particular tag used for a zealous person who goes into roasting a fish without the owner's consent and who at the end of the day do not get a reward for the selfless service. Ab'eleja yan is a word coined out of yoruba words mostly given to time wasters who will not subsequently be the owners of a particular thing, lover, job or anything related that they have toiled to get. 'EJA' in this context is fish and it could be a human being or thing. This tag is given to Waje because of the circumstance she found herself.

 When she was younger, she used to live like the world was free, NAIVE, INNOCENT and SINGLE MINDED, but when she took a step out of her comfort zone, she got trapped. She got intertwined in a love web which created a WELL SEASONED TRAUMA that hunts her to cover all her shame in her closet.

  

A peasant farmer is her father and a lover of a girl child indeed! All his effort to plant and harvest in due time was to meet up with the payment of his daughter's school fees. Lima toiled day and night to see Waje succeed, and also to travel round the world in search of GREENER PASTURE. Waje used to be a good girl who loves to work harder to get whatever thing she wanted, and this led to her career pursuit in the college.

According to the aesthetic design
and vision of life, as ONE GOES HIGHER, the MORE LIBERATED the PERSON BECOMES, and the TOUGHER the GAME BECOMES. Waje used to be a great personality she had been over the years while in school until she met a young boy who disguised like a saint. She was in her second year when the murmurs and whispers of love songs started approaching her ears. Cornell is a handsome boy with GREAT INTELLIGENCE in WOMANIZING and Waje wouldn't escape his trap.

Waje fell victim of his lies and deception after series of attempts to win her to his side. A year and few months after the duo had been together, Cornell broke up with Waje, and the agony started.  She started counting her loss, her WASTED TIME, EFFORT, INACTIVITY TOWARDS HER EDUCATION, AND ABOVE ALL, HER LOST VIRGINITY. After few months, she heard that Cornell has been hooked up with a rich man's daughter whom he will get married to after leaving the college. WAJE IS INDEED AN AB'ELEJA YAN!

Waje's story is just a fiction, but ab'eleja yan surely exists. At one stage or the other, we have been trapped by what we love to do, LOVING, WORKING, and OTHERS, BUT EVENTUALLY GET TRASHED OUT AND OVERRULED BY OTHER PEOPLE.  How can we avoid the tag 'Ab'eleja yan' ? The race of life is endless until death comes, and there is no definite way one can escape this at a point in time. If  you dont get tagged now, maybe later, because we have all invested in things that did not yield reward and some will still do too. WE WIN SOME, AND WE LOSE SOME...

IS JESUS A NECROMANCER?

Necromancy is a method of divination through alleged communication with the dead; black art, magic in general, especially that practice by a witch or sorcerer; sorcery; witchcraft; conjuration. According to the above, can we liken Jesus to a necromancer? Some people with the vague knowledge of existence and the creations of God have and could have likened Jesus to a necromancer, but the fact is closer than anything, the account, the BIBLE!

According to the bible, Jesus is the product of God; John 3: 16. In Genesis when God created the heaven and earth, it was only pronouncements, example; "Let there be light", and there was light. He owns the word and He controls it. This shows that God is the author of word, because he never consulted any sorcery book or divination to make anything come to being.

The act of the Trinity, God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit is key here. God created man, made him in his own image and crafted beings in different forms, woman and man through his deed. There was no account of consultation from any other party; Genesis 1:27-28.  Imagine a maker of a flying plane running out of ideas to repair a plane he built, that's not possible. That's a human being at work, and now the maker of human being running out of ideas to make the man he created live again after death, it's super impossible! He can never run out of ideas.

Jesus needed just words to make Lazarus and Jairu's daughter live, and exactly what He did; John 11:38-44, Mark 5:21-43. He said to Lazarus; " COME FORTH LAZARUS", and to Jairu's daughter; " TALITHA CUMI" which means, little girl, I say unto you, arise. Jesus never walked with a book of consultation, he never conjured, because he owns the set and reset button of humans. HE HAS THE KEY TO THE WORDS, HE IS NOT A NECROMANCER!

How Fear Kills Your Dream "The Shadow That Scares You"

When I was younger, I used to love the skipping over a rope game. I would watch my sister play, my neighbours compete and that was how my love for the game built up, but I was scared of something, skipping the rope because of fear of losing. There was no time I was called to play the game that I wouldn't make out excuses like, I don't like games, I don't want to fall, the rope is lengthy, the rope is not lengthy enough, and the list goes on and on.

This fear built in me that I practically hated all games. What is this fear? the "Fear of the Unknown" , losing before being defeated! I held grudges within me for my inability to face this monster named fear, but it conquered me times without number, the common ludo game became a PS4 games, the well known WHOT became xbox one games. Little did I know that it was killing my power to explore my abilities, talents and technical expertise. I continued in this manner till I started getting challenged by people that go to training schools to learn what I am good at naturally, then the fire arouse.  The fire to keep walking like the lame that got freed. I started daring things I wouldn't give a second thought, and the chains of fear started breaking.

There is nothing like "phobia", we created it in our heads. Fear lives in us because we allowed it in the first place. A timid soul will never be daring, he hides under the canopy of humility, avoidance of I-too-know tag, but all these are EXCELLENT EXCUSES FOR STAGNANCY. I woke up to one reality that, if I do not dare it, I will never get it, be it game, career, extra curricular activities in all facets of life, I will be like a novice who is worse than an illiterate and eventually die with virtues people would have remembered me for. All these put together formed a creative slogan "DON'T LET YOUR INNER ABILITY BECOME YOUR INABILITY".

In as much as you created fear within you, maybe through a failed attempt, actions of people against you, or your personal defect, you can kill it. That moment you stand up to the task, raise your head high and get focused on the goal, game, project execution, speaking up for your right, whatever it may be that is right, you are heading towards the sky. Competition is a necessity, putting your best in the right way by not getting distracted by your competitors, because in that competition lies the existence of such business, service, career, games and all. DO NOT ALLOW FEAR TO SILENCE YOU FROM ACHIEVING WHAT YOU LOVE, DEAL WITH IT!

SEDUCTIVE MIS/MARKETERS

A decoy they say it is, the recruitment of young, beautiful and talented ladies in the marketing industry. An application which reads that:" a young, not above the age of 30, beautiful, specifically fair complexioned, intelligent, with an upper credit from a notable university is required in a marketing firm... Note, the applicant must be a female" has a clause, and what is this clause? This and many more will be discussed  subsequently.

A human resource representative knows each and every implication of recruiting a figure with no input in an organisation, hence the fast track of job specification with a defined qualities of who to be expected, so as to avoid delay of service. According to the above requirements, an old cargo is not required, a dark complexioned lady will be an after thought, a beautiful person with a shallow mind might have little or no chance of getting the job. Who exactly are we looking for, a model with beauty quality or a genius in the marketing field?

According to Michelle Krier of Clear Edge Marketing, she says; Because marketing is always evolving, and keeping up with the latest and greatest is a challenge, I look for things on the resume that demonstrate this person is go-getting and has initiative to keep pace. Have they taken on greater responsibilities, either with a long term employer or through job changes? Are they involved in industry or marketing organisations? Those small cues provide important insights for evaluating if the candidate could be the right fit. There are some soft skills that evaluate in conjunction with the skills and qualifications of the candidate. Do they seem excited about what they do? Are they naturally curious and eager to learn? Do they seem to have initiative and drive to succeed?

Professionally, skills in the desired area are firstly considered before any other thing, but recently, appearance has the lead. Most HR representatives hinge this on the common saying which goes thus; You are addressed the way you dress. Dressing is not the major consideration in some firms, good looks, stature, beauty have stolen the original idea of competency in the marketing industry and this makes females the targets. Going by the unprofessional way, they believe that getting what you want with what you have is the speedy way to achieve success, by neglecting the integrity that such companies, firms, organisations mostly include as part of their missions and visions.

Going by what Michelle Brammer of eZanga said; "The world of marketing evolves so quickly. If you're unwilling to learn, you'll miss out on excellent opportunities to move marketing efforts, and brand, forward. Candidates should have a verifiable curiosity to learn, and not just in business. Personal interests are very insightful too. Did a candidate learn a new language, take online courses to learn how to code, or even take up a complicated hobby? Awesome! This tells me that they are okay with being outside their comfort zone too", a marketer should learn how to diversify, be proactive, smart enough to see opportunities on his or her toes, but the reverse is the case now.

Scandals are on the increase due to lack of professional methods of marketing services and products of companies to prospects. Could this be a cue from the HR representatives inability to be professional, or the major intentions of employees (prospective marketers) to take the bull by the horn, taking the competition to another level? This negligence in most cases makes most organisation lose their integrity and completely get beaten out of the labour market.

UN-PROGRESSIVE EQUATION

By: Odunmorayo Olalekan Matthew
        Author and speech writer.

"Our journey as a nation has never been easy, it has always been TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACKWARD"
Those were the words of the 44th president of the United States of America, Barack Hussein Obama in his last address to the nation as president.

Democracy in any country has never been easy. It's full of ups and downs, political drama, sabotage, imbalance equation between the few positive minded and numerous negative minded people majorly influenced by the rich, powerful, selfish, score-settling individuals to jeopardize the progress. When their plans work out, then Barack Obama words would read as ONE STEP FORWARD, TWO STEPS BACKWARD.

Mathematically, that is one minus two. We don't need to look for a professor to provide answer to this. A smart nursery school kid would tell you it's MINUS ONE. Still getting out of the mud.
Nigeria what are you doing?! What is wrong with being black?! Why are we still where we were?! Do our problems defiled positive solution?!

'If our party had been in power, things would have been better'... dear politicians and political bloggers, don't feed us that nonsense. The same government was in power at the federal and cross river state yet TINAPA failed to work.

Having been to the Dubai Mall and Tinapa dozens of time, the only major thing which separates them is that there's traffic of human beings in the former while the latter has traffic of toads making irritating sound.

In this present world, a country that will compete favourably ought to have uninterrupted power supply and her poorest citizens living far above miserable one dollar the world powers are measuring us with.

Until we fix those things that are urgent and important for our existence, the negative equation will continue its consistent ugly run.
We do not really need to suggest so many solutions to our problems because the solutions are begging the questions. All that is needed is COMMITMENT, PLEDGE, and LOVE FOR THE NATION CALLED NIGERIA.

God bless our nation and good leaders who have masses interest at heart and ACT.

How Whistle Blowers and Other Reasons Cripple Celebrities' Marriages

One marital mistake every soul makes is the zeal to meet up to the standard expected by people watching them, and this however stretches the line of competition which succinctly ends most people with spouses that are not compatible with their personality. This ideology is rampant amongst adults of marriageable ages these days and it is chronic among people mostly celebrated in all sectors,  especially entertainment industry.

In recent times, wedding is highly classified than marriage itself, and the real meaning of marriage is no where to be found than the bin where it is trashed. In order to avoid exaggeration, most wedding ceremonies have huge expenses ruined on them, while little efforts are avoided to make the marriage work or successful.

These are some of the reasons most celebrities' marriage crash;

- Whistle Blowers: The whistle blowers are everywhere around almost all the celebrities.  They are the rumour mongers, stalkers that follow them on social media, they come as friends,  and they aim at nothing but to help you blow your weakneses to the world. Sometimes some celebrities are the whistle blowers of their private lives because their fingers are readily on their tabs to expose both good and bad they encounter on a daily basis, and all these complicate matter more.

-  Lack of Love: A marriage counsellor once said to me; most people getting married these days are merely interested in the "tag". They want people to see that they are hooked up with rich, famous, and good looking personality and these make them to lose focus on what the selflessness of love in marriage entails. They mostly gun for the name calling ' she's married, he is married'.

-Internal and External Pressure: Most celebrities settle for people they are not compatible with because of the pressure from both parents and colleagues, and fans inclusive. Some say ; 'You don tey for market', and the next line is to settle for someone who is an acquaintance whose intention is not verified just because he/ she showed interest for a short time.

- Pride: What pride can destroy in few minutes, it cannot build in several years in most cases. Most celebrities that encounter hiccups in their marriages have been victims of pride. There is no crime in correcting one's spouse, and there is no crime being submissive when corrected.  No marriage rule forbids begging when one party hurts the other, and no rule says rejection of plea is absolute.

- Privacy: Most celebrities have jeopardized the place of their privacy by divulging all their activities to the world. Their marital news is everywhere, on air, social media, like their fans care about their private life so much not to criticise them.

- Unnecessary Entertainment of Interviews: Did your fans get you married to your spouse? Why do you think they need that part of your life story? Would your interview vindicate you to be a saint? These are the questions you should ask yourself. Some celebrities feel that every inadequacy in their marriages needs explanation to the world.  They often want to rebuild their image when they sense failure in their marital lives, hence they take up interviews that put the whole event to the face of the public. Mind you, a fan that supports your private life going public doesn't have your interest at heart.  True fans often love unconditionally,  and what they firstly fell in love with should be your art and skill in your field, but when it goes beyond that, you are beginning to be their crush. Don't be afraid when such fan jubilates when your marriage hits the rock. Your fans are not interested in your in abilities, they only need you to make amendments and represent them.

- Priority: Do not prioritise your career than your home, and do not jeopardize your career as well. Some celebrities are single because they enjoy the independence,  but your ability to choose marriage has given you a responsibility that you musn't fail to do diligently.

These and many more are the reasons some celebrities fail in their marriage. Let's take a clue from Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva, they are both not perfect, but they keep fighting on, because marriage is a commitment and not some melodramas to be played to the world.